How to reclaim play at work and in life

Below, Piera Gelardi shares five key insights from her new book, The Playful Way: Creativity, Connection, and Joy Through Everyday Moments of Play. Gelardi is a creative entrepreneur. She cofounded the media brand Refinery29 and, more recently, the creative wellness company Nooma Looma. What’s the big idea? Playfulness means being curiously, creatively, and courageously engaged with life. Being playful isn’t the easy choice. It requires showing up authentically, risking looking silly, and trying something that might not work. In a world that rewards performance and polish, choosing play is a quiet act of courage that will help you feel alive. Listen to the audio version of this Book Bite—read by Gelardi herself—in the Next Big Idea app, or buy the book. 1. Pressure narrows. Play opens. When life throws a curveball, you must choose between taking the Pressured Way or the Playful Way. The Pressured Way is often our default: Tense up, try to get control, force the solution. The Playful Way approaches the same situation with curiosity, levity, and openness. It’s the difference between white-knuckling through life and seeing it as an adventure. Think about the last time you were really stuck, be that attacking a problem from the same angle, a hard conversation you kept dreading, or a decision that felt impossible. The more pressure you applied, the smaller everything felt. That’s not a personal failure. That’s just what pressure does. It narrows your thinking, tightens your options, and puts you in survival mode. Play does the opposite. Think about the last time someone cracked a joke in a tense meeting, and suddenly the whole room shifted. Or when someone asked a genuinely unexpected question and new possibilities opened that weren’t visible a moment before. The Playful Way reorients situations to a position of curiosity instead of control, openness instead of force, and fluidity instead of rigidity. 2. Playfulness makes seriousness bearable. We’ve all absorbed some vers