What to do when you get unexpected ancestry DNA test results

Online genetic testing kits are often given as gifts, which means people often aren’t prepared to uncover family secrets. (Pexels) Link copiedShareShare articleIt's estimated up to 40 million people have taken online ancestry DNA tests to learn more about their family history and cultural identity. Direct-to-consumer genetic testing kits are sometimes given as gifts or purchased "as a bit of fun", which means people often aren't prepared to uncover a shocking family secret and discover unexpected parents, siblings and other relatives. "It's something … that can be absolutely life changing, in that it really disrupts a person's sense of who they are at their very being," says Michelle Blanchard, CEO of VANISH, a Victorian-based not-for-profit organisation providing support to adults affected by past adoption practices, as well as donor conceived individuals. "We often say the DNA doesn't lie, but for some people it is a finding that is so outside of what they thought was possible, that can sometimes be hard to accept." Knowing where to turn for support and the steps you can take to make sense of what you have uncovered can help. Making an unexpected discovery through DNA testing can lead to shock, disbelief, confusion or even numbness, says Zena Burgess, CEO of the Australian Psychological Society. "Especially if the results challenge long-held assumptions about identity, family history or upbringing," Dr Burgess says. "A central finding across the literature is that unexpected DNA discoveries can destabilise identity and disrupt an individual's life narrative. "It is normal to also experience feelings of grief, anger, betrayal, sadness and curiosity." Dr Burgess says some people experience positive outcomes, such as relief at finally understanding family dynamics, and excitement about relationships with newly discovered relatives. And your response to this new information may also shift over time, she says. Has taking an ancestry DNA test altered your life in any way? We'd love to hear from you. DNA test results can be the beginning of a journey that is often not straightforward and at times incredibly difficult, says Ms Blanchard. "These journeys can uncover a whole range of information you may not have been expecting." She says having someone walk alongside you is important. "I would really encourage people to make sure they have a good support network around them. "Let someone important in your life know what is going on." Depending on what you have discovered, there are a number of services you can reach out to. "If it's very clear in the DNA result that the people that raised the person are not their biological family, it is possible that an adoption has occurred," says Ms Blanchard. If you're thinking of taking an ancestry DNA test as "a bit of fun", experts warn there is the risk of uncovering more than you bargained for. "People can apply to state government adoption information services in each state and territory for information." Ms Blanchard says that is a good first step for people to try and "piece together what they can". "When you apply, you can generally receive a copy of an original birth certificate, which at a minimum would show the identity of your mother." The adoption order made by the court usually includes a file of social information, Ms Blanchard says. "It might have a little bit of information about the circumstances of the adoption." From there, you can reach out to post-adoption support services in your state or territory. For example VANISH in Victoria and Jigsaw in Queensland "These organisations have decades of experience in supporting people who are interested in searching for and reconnecting with family members," Ms Blanchard says. "Reunion is seldom what we need on the TV or in movies. "There is the side of it that is about detective work and making sense of who the members of your family are, the other part is understanding the context of forced adoption, in particular, and the shame and stigma that many mothers and some fathers carried with them throughout life. "It can be wonderful as well, but it's complex and challenging." Unexpected ancestry DNA test results can lead to a range of emotions, sometimes positive, like excitement about connecting with new family members. (Pexels) Such services can also support people who are donor conceived, as well as other organisations like Donor Conceived Australia and VARTA. In Victoria, NSW and WA there are central sperm donor registries. A registry for Queensland is in the process of being established. In all other states and territories, each fertility clinic keeps these details. But navigating historical donor records can depend on where and when the treatment took place, says Ms Blanchard. "The initial donor conception programs were created on the basis of anonymity … that's all changed now because legislation supports a person's right to know who they are. "But unfortunately, there are man

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